tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12427312.post66174197939327101..comments2023-08-11T07:34:06.909-04:00Comments on Randomly Placed: Confessions of a Hijabi trying to beat her Quadrapop score.Asmaahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12799829085959558569noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12427312.post-51971072495339434022008-04-06T11:33:00.000-04:002008-04-06T11:33:00.000-04:00"aren't you hot in that?" I promptly reply "yes, b..."aren't you hot in that?" I promptly reply "yes, but I'm from the desert. All I know how to be is hot." <BR/><BR/>that was too good. =) (Y)<BR/>I'll keep it in mind ;)<BR/><BR/>I came across these 21 heartening points on how to become close to Allah. Posting a relevant point here:<BR/> <BR/>"When people criticize your actions and effort, revise your actions and see if they please Allah or not. If they do; then ignore and remember how the Holy Prophet (Sall Allaho alaihe wasallam) and the Sahabah (Radhi Allaho anhum) were criticized, made fun of and even physically harmed, so have patience."<BR/><BR/>more points on the link below<BR/>http://sairastar.blogspot.com/2008/04/how-to-become-close-to-allah.html<BR/><BR/>May Allah give you patience and make hijab easy for you and for all the sisters. Ameen =)<BR/><BR/>salamsSyrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10219107993573263738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12427312.post-64224960773646370382008-03-04T12:41:00.000-05:002008-03-04T12:41:00.000-05:00Khalidah, ameen. It is difficult to be different. ...Khalidah, ameen. It is difficult to be different. But at the same time it enriches us as individuals and a community.<BR/><BR/>Anon, hehe icy glares. I like it. I think it all depends on how the person is reacting to you. Some people are just curious, in which case, I wouldn't be mean like I wrote in my post :P but I think we can tell when someone is trying to intimidate us. In which case, go for the icy stare!<BR/><BR/>Commonplacer, I think you should go for that blog idea! hehe<BR/><BR/>anon #2, you're right. That piece of cloth doesn't determine whether or not you're pious. But it certainly colours your every day with small interesting experiences. And it also makes you look at yourself in a different way.<BR/><BR/>I think at the end it's not about it being "just hair." I mean, sometimes people have horrible hair and are more attractive WITH hijab, haha. But really, it's about your reasons for wearing it, and how it changes the way you interact with yourself and God.Asmaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12799829085959558569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12427312.post-43000493558553649342008-03-02T16:44:00.000-05:002008-03-02T16:44:00.000-05:00I wear hijab. I've had some mad stories while I ha...I wear hijab. I've had some mad stories while I have. I like wearing it, I was asked to by my parents. I'd say forced, but at the end of the day even if that's what it was, I'm still wearing it 4 years later. That, I suppose, is what is making me feel like taking it off more and more, recently. <BR/><BR/>It's funny.. cos I'm beginning to think if something so small as a piece of material causes such a stir - at the end, when the things people wear won't matter, and the shoes and the colour of your material flowing round our heads, or the diesel jeans, or the nice perfume, or the pretty dresses, at the end of the day when none of that matters, ultimately the only thing that DOES matter is the state of the relationship you have between yourself and Allah. What matters is your heart, and its purity. Not what or how you dress.. I'm beginning to feel more and more that since Islam is so attacked, people almost feel impelled to make even more of a stand by wearing things that obviously cause a reaction. <BR/><BR/>I have alot to learn, but I feel very trapped recently. I haven't always felt this way, and not only that but I've felt quite vulnerable at times while I've worn my hijab. I've felt like it makes me feel unneccesarily awkward, especially living in London. Men have chased me home, men have followed me, and men continue to stare. It wouldn't matter if I wore hijab or not, and sometimes I think they'd stare less if I didn't wear it. Which kinda defeats the purpose of dressing in such a way so as to not draw attention to yourself. <BR/><BR/>See the issue? The colour of your heart can't be shown through the colour of your hijab, which is ultimately just a symbol that only creates reaction from the society and people around you, just as a long beard is, just as a cross round your neck is, just as a goth punk is. I don't really get it anymore, and although I love wearing my hijab, I question it more and more, when I think of the way the world is at the moment. I flinch when I see veiled figures in wandering around London. I actually say out loud, Pleease take it off.. it's not neccessary.. It even makes me angry. Wearing a scarf round your head is one thing, just like wearing a hat or a hoody or a cross round your neck - but dressing in such a way in a society that is openly angry about such things is silly to me. <BR/><BR/>Don't get me wrong, I feel a real part of something by wearing hijab, I feel I've been guided only positively since I've worn it, but at the end of the day, it's just hair dude. Who are the people around you to judge whether you're sincere or not?<BR/><BR/>Reply to me hijabis, I need some kind of confirmation/response/just another opinion.. <BR/><BR/>I love your blog, it's so interesting. I only discovered it recently, but its fabulous. <BR/><BR/>-nala. xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12427312.post-44162305934807188882008-03-02T10:32:00.000-05:002008-03-02T10:32:00.000-05:00wearing hijab is so fraught with drama sometimes -...wearing hijab is so fraught with drama sometimes - it's fun.<BR/>"But it has never come to that because without hijab, I am the same as everyone else. I'd be drowning in a sea of sameness. And that, more than being misunderstood or scoffed at, I cannot bear." Too true.<BR/>and as for stories, we need to collect these and anthologize them as a set of humorous essays. hmmm, new funny blog idea, anyone? <BR/>- commonplacerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12427312.post-59718759145264229152008-02-28T22:55:00.000-05:002008-02-28T22:55:00.000-05:00Assalamu alaikom,Sometimes middle aged or older me...Assalamu alaikom,<BR/>Sometimes middle aged or older men have given me really intimidating stares, which actually make me nervous. But I make myself as icy cold and hard looking as possible and glare right back at them. My friends tell me I shouldn't, because we are spokespeople for Islam (we hijabis) and it won't do to have me glaring at people, but I only do it to this group of men who are trying to intimidate me... The women, I give them my sweetest smile and try to put a content, satisfied look on my face so it will make them wonder why I am so happy with my life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12427312.post-34406664999753149812008-02-25T21:32:00.000-05:002008-02-25T21:32:00.000-05:00I was just thinking today how hard it is sometimes...I was just thinking today how hard it is sometimes to maintain the courage to be different. As hijaabis, we face the pressures of our capitalist culture that preaches to us that being 'sexy' is the highest ideal for a woman, and the political culture that is antagonistic to Islam. I thought about what it might feel like to just let go, to just be 'normal'...and then I prayed to Allah to give us all the strength to continue to be brave enough to be different.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com