Tuesday, December 04, 2007

Saying Goodbye

How do you say goodbye to someone? How do you look someone in the eye, or talk to him or her over the phone and know that at the end of the conversation, you'll never speak to or see that person again?

I had to do this a couple of days ago. One of my friends from high school went back to Kenya to get married and live out his life. And it was a strange conversation we had the day before he left. He phoned me on his way to jummah and we had our final "may Allah (swt) bless your life and give you all the happiness you deserve" conversation. It was extremely unnerving. Not because are very close or anything, but the concept of it was horrifying.

I used to see him around the subway station or at the library, grocery store once in a while. Maybe at the mosque in Ramadan. Beyond that I don't think about anything related to him, nor do I talk to him except when I see him. But knowing that he'll never be around anymore, that some routine surprise of seeing him buying milk or waiting for the bus no longer exists...you are now completely living a life apart and without any minute relation whatsoever.

This might sound strange, but the knowledge of being completely disconnected bothered me. How do you say goodbye to someone forever?

3 comments:

Mind Freak Evolution said...

Here's an interesting question to everyone;
Are there people around you, whom you met at school, work and university, whom you can talk to meet, greet, increase sisterhood and brotherhood at anytime but we just don't make the time?...shame isn't it.

Would you have probably ever talked/met this person if he was not going?' but now that he is leaving it leaves us with an irky feeling...

What I am trying to get at is sometimes we just don't appreciate things until they are gone.

I personally do not see a big difference if someone is next door to me or a thousand miles away, because due to technology even if someone is on the other side of the planet we can still email, call, chat, video chat and what not...it just depends on making the time.

I totally understand how you feel, I'd suggest you take that feeling as a good thing and eyeopener coz it shows you care. However, for a Muslim such feelings should be present for all other fellow Muslims, regardless of them being near or far because Allahu Alam...
What if tomorrow never comes...

Mind Freak Evolution said...

Here's an interesting question to everyone;
Are there people around you, whom you met at school, work and university, whom you can talk to meet, greet, increase sisterhood and brotherhood at anytime but we just don't make the time?...shame isn't it.

Would you have probably ever talked/met this person if he was not going?' but now that he is leaving it leaves us with an irky feeling...

What I am trying to get at is sometimes we just take things for granted and don't appreciate things/people until they are gone.

I personally do not see a big difference if someone is next door to me or a thousand miles away, because due to technology even if someone is on the other side of the planet we can still email, call, chat, video chat and what not...it just depends on making the time.

I totally understand how you feel, I'd suggest you take that feeling as a good thing and eyeopener coz it shows you care. However, for a Muslim such feelings should be present for all other fellow Muslims, regardless of them being near or far because Allahu Alam...
What if tomorrow never comes...

Asmaa said...

Mind Freak Evolution, well you make a good point. I try to make time for people, but this is a little different because he's a male and I'm a female. So I might not necessarily seek him out.

But you're right, sometimes we just don't make the time. And that only becomes apparent when someone leaves your life for good.