You know sometimes I wonder how times have changed. Our moms have done & are doing so much for us, take up all their time for us, their main objective in life is what is best for their kids and to see them happy.
Nowadays ever wonder if when we all become parents would we do the same? I see people busy thinking about their goals & careers in life, not that's bad or anything but being a mom is not important, not good enough and some even consider it as a lowly thing. People just want to dump their kids in a day care so they can get 'personal time'. My mom would never even think of someone else takin care of her kids!
Its nice if both parents work, but I don't think we have to choose careers that effect raising our kids.
Can someone even call a person a mom if she just gives birth to a kid but is busy with her career and the nanny is the one who listens to the child, changes her diapers, teaches the kid everything?
Have we all become so selfish? Godforbid I become someone like that
Mars youre married, so when will you be celebrating mother's day!! :) btw do you also celebrate mother in-laws day?! ;) (Do Egyptians stay with the inlaws or is that unthinkable in your culture not matter how nice she is) T.C.
Anon 1, yes I wonder the same thing. Motherhood is a role in society that has lost its importance. But, man, being a mother is the best and most rewarding job ever. I agree, you can't deposit your kids at a daycare and come back for them at the end of the day and expect them to be these amazing Muslims.
Mothers are so honoured in Islam...it's foolish for people to call that role insignificant when really, it's one of the most important jobs. Man, how can women these days not want to be mothers? It's warped. SubhanAllah.
Anon 2, uhh I'll let Mars answer you since I don't know who T.C. is, and you're freaking me out. But, no, Egyptians don't usually stay with their in-laws.
Brother Biryani, you'd be surprised at how much Urdu I know. Post it.
I blogged two, but this one is my favorite. The last part requires some background knowledge, but the rest is beautiful... No matter how many times I read it, it brings out at least a tear...
MAA
maut ki aagosh mein jab thak key soo jattiii hain maa tab kahii jaakar sukoon thora sa paa jaati hain maaaa
fikar mein bachoo ki kuch istarah ghul jaati hain maa no jawan hotey howey bhorii nazar aati hain maaa
eik hi hasraat ko apney azm-o-istaqlal sey aansoo sey gusl dekar kudh hi dafnaati hain maa
aurhtii hain gurbatoo kaa khud yeh boseeda kafan chahatoo ka perahan bachey ko pehnaatii hain maa
bhooka rehnay hi nahi deti yateemoo ko kabhi jaaney kis kis sey kahan sey maang kar laati hain maa
rooh key rishtey ki yeh gheraiyan tou dekhayey chot lagtii hain hamarey aur chilaatii hain maaa
kab zarorat hoon meray bachey ko itnaa soch kar jaagti rehtii aaankhen aur soooo jaati hain maaa
haadyoon ka ras pila kar apney dil key chain koo kitnii raatey mein tou khalii paet sojaati hain maaa
jaaney kitnii barf si raatoo mein aisaa bhi howa bacha tou chatii pey hain gelay mein sojatii hain maa
jab khiloney ko machaltaa hain koi gurbat ka phool aaansoo key saaz par bachey ko behlatii hain maaa
fikar mein shamshan key aakhir chatanoo ki tarah jaisay sookhii lakriaa istraha jaal jaati hain maaa
apnii aanchal sey gulabii aansoo ko poonch kar deir tak gurbat pey apnii askh barsatii hain maa
samney bachoo key khush rehtii hain har ek haal mein raat ko chup chup kay lekin askh barsatii hain maaa
pehley bachoo ko khilaatii hain sukoon-o-chain sey baad mein jo kuch bacha who shauq sey kahti hain maa
Mangtiii bhi nahi apney liyey allah sey Apney bachoo key liyey daman ko phelatii hain maa
Janey anjaney mein hojayey jo bachey sey kasoor Eik anjaani saza key dukh sey tarhaaati hain maa
Har ibadat har mohabbat mein nihah hain eik garz Be garz be losss har khidmat ko kar jaati hain maa
Apney bachoo ki baharey zindagi key wastey Aansooo key phoool har mosaaam mein barsatii hain maa
Bazooo mein kich key aaajaye gi kaisay qainat Apney bachey key liyey bahoon ko pehlaatii hain maaa
Eik eik hamley sey bachey ko bachaney key liyey Dhaaal bantii hain kabhi talwar ban jaati hain maaa
Pheley dil ko saaf karkey khoob apney khoon sey Dharkanoo par kalmae-tauheed likh jaati hain maaa
Safha-e-hastii pey likhtii hain who usool-e-zindagi Isi lyey ek maqtab-e-islam kehlatii hain maaa
Usney duniyaa ko diyey masoom rehbar islyey Azmatoh mein saani-e-quran kehlatii hain maa
Jab perashanii mein ghir jaatey hain hum pardes mein Aaansoo ko poochney khawaboo mein aajatii hain maa
Aisa lagta hain key jaisa aagaye firdoos mein Daal kar bahey galey mein sar ko sehlatii hain maa
Agaya gar waqt muskhill apney dil key chain par Qabr mein hotey howey bhi ashq barsatii hain maa
Baad mar jaaney key phir betay ki khidmat key liyey Bhes betii ka badal kar ghar mein aaajati hain maaa
Door hojatii hain sari umr ki us dam thakan Bihah karkey betay kaa jab ghar bahoo lati hain maa
Dekh letay hain nazar jis waqt betay aur bahoo Ajnabi apney hi ghar mein haayey ban jaati hain maa
Allah allah bhool kar eik eik satam ko raat mein Pootii pootey sey shikastaaa dil ko behlatii hain maa
Beta kitnaa hi bura hoon par padosan key huzoor Rok kar jazbaat ko betay key gun gaati hain maa
Shadiyaan karkey jo bachey jaa basey pardes mein Khat sey ya tasweer sey phir dil ko behlatiii hain maa
Apney seenay par rakhey hain qainat-e-zindaqiii Yeh zameen is wastey hain dost kehlatii hain maa
Zindagani key safar mein gardishoo ki dhooob mein Jaab koi saaya nahi miltaa tou yaad aaatii hain maa
Muflisi Bachey ki zid par jab utha letii hain haath Jaisay mujrum ho koi istrhah sharmatii hain maa
Lot kar wapis safar sey jab bhi ghar aatey hain hum Daal kar bhahey galey mein sar ko sehlatii hain maa
Dair hojatii hain ghar mein aaney mein aksar jab hamey Rait par machlii ho jaisay aisay ghabratii hain maa
Mart-e-dam asaka bacha naa ghar par deir sey Apni donoo kutliyay chokhat par rakh jaati hain maa
Apni pehloo mein lita kar aur totey ki tarah Eik , bara paanch chodaa hum ko sikhlaati hain maa
Paar kehtey hain kissey aur mamta kia cheez hain Koi un bachoo sey poochey jin mar jaati hain maa
Saaal bhar mein , ya kabhi , haftey mein jumaraat ko Zindagi bhar ka silaa eik fatiha paa ti hain maaa
Martaba hoo maa ka zahir kis liyey firdoos sey Apney bachoo key liyey poshaq mangwatii hain maa
Ghar sey jab pardes jaata hain koi noor-e-nazar Hath mein quran lekar dar pey aajatii hain maa
Dekey bachey ko zamanat mein reza-e-paak ki peechay peechay sur jukhayey door tak jaati hain maa
kaaptiii awaaz sey kehtii hain betaa alwidaaa samnaa jab tak rahey hathooo ko lehratii hain maa
yaad aataa hain shab-e-aashoor ka karyal jawan jab kabhii uljhiii howi zulfoo ko suljhatii hain maa
sub sey pehlay jaaan dena fatima(a.s) key laal par raat bhar aun-o-mohamed ko yeh samjhatii hain maa
allah allah intehah dekh sabr-e- laila aur husain (a.s) baap ney khainchii sina , seeney ko sehlatii hain maa
yeh bata saktii hain humko bus rubab(a.s)-e-khasta tan kis tarah bin doodh key bachay ko behlaati hain maaa
shimr key kanjar sey yaa sookhey galey sey poochiyey maa idhar sey nikaltaa hain udhar aaati hain maaa
jab talak hain yeh hath hain hamsheer be parda na hoon eik madar bawafa betay sey farmatii hain maaa
aisa lagta hain kissi maqtal sey ab bhi waqt-e-asr ek buridaa sar sey zyada pyasaaa hoon sada aati hain maa
no jawan beta agar dam tor dein aagosh mein zindaqii bhar sur ko diwaroo sey takraatii hain maa
lash par betay key parhtii hain jawanii marsiaaa shukr ka sajda us aalim mein baja laati hain maa
dei kar apney laal ko islam ki aaagosh mein good khalii phir so-e-jaanat palat jaati hain maa
fatima(a.s) key laal par qurbaaan karney key liyey baandh kar sehra jawan betay ko samjhatii hain maa
apney gam ko bhool kar rotey hain jo shabbir(a.s) ko unkey askhoo key liyey jaanat sey aajatii hain maaa
Anon, thanks for sharing that, it was really cute.
Olde, it was trying to find a substitute for the "baa" word, but it couldn't ;) Sheikh, I will miss you more. May Allah (swt) make your journey easy and rewarding.
Mars, its not a male prospective. I totally agree everyone needs personal time if the person is a mom or dad but as I added on in my comment do you think personal time is not being there when your kids need to talk to you? is personal time leaving your kids with the grandparents or relatives and go off to some exotic vacation?
I have heard both women and men brag on becoming doctors or similar time consuming professions. They want to go to the ends of the world to help the poor people of the world and forget that their own child needs them too.
This is excellent but don't forget or give up your family for such worldy goals.
It does sound I'm trying to say stay at home & only be a mom, but that's not true. Both parents should work, a wife will go psycho staying at home 24/7!
However a wife is more closer and is influential in a kid's life (refer to a hadith saying this) so I think a wife should know when to say "my child needs me more than my job"
Even dads should also follow this but its a fact of life no matter what a dad will do for his family the mother is more closer to the child.
The take home msg. I'm trying to say we all have to balance our family and career but the responsibilities one has towards her family, be it kids or parents is far greater than any career.
Hey, is someone travelling? do pray for us all while travelling!
*NOTE: I want to know who all these anonymous people are. You know, it's really not bad when random anonymous people comment in a general manner. But it gets really annoying when the person knows who I am, and I apparently might know who they are and yet they don't want to reveal themselves for some reason. It's cowardly, it really is. And not to mention immodest. SubhanAllah, get a backbone.
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SO Truee !!!
... and we where she deposited all her sacrifices, selflessness, love and affection ...
You know sometimes I wonder how times have changed. Our moms have done & are doing so much for us, take up all their time for us, their main objective in life is what is best for their kids and to see them happy.
Nowadays ever wonder if when we all become parents would we do the same?
I see people busy thinking about their goals & careers in life, not that's bad or anything but being a mom is not important, not good enough and some even consider it as a lowly thing.
People just want to dump their kids in a day care so they can get 'personal time'. My mom would never even think of someone else takin care of her kids!
Its nice if both parents work, but I don't think we have to choose careers that effect raising our kids.
Can someone even call a person a mom if she just gives birth to a kid but is busy with her career and the nanny is the one who listens to the child, changes her diapers, teaches the kid everything?
Have we all become so selfish?
Godforbid I become someone like that
Mars youre married, so when will you be celebrating mother's day!! :)
btw do you also celebrate mother in-laws day?! ;) (Do Egyptians stay with the inlaws or is that unthinkable in your culture not matter how nice she is)
T.C.
nice quote..
too bad you guys don't know urdu or i'd post the most amazing poem about the 'mother'...
Dil, word.
Anon 1, yes I wonder the same thing. Motherhood is a role in society that has lost its importance. But, man, being a mother is the best and most rewarding job ever. I agree, you can't deposit your kids at a daycare and come back for them at the end of the day and expect them to be these amazing Muslims.
Mothers are so honoured in Islam...it's foolish for people to call that role insignificant when really, it's one of the most important jobs. Man, how can women these days not want to be mothers? It's warped. SubhanAllah.
Anon 2, uhh I'll let Mars answer you since I don't know who T.C. is, and you're freaking me out. But, no, Egyptians don't usually stay with their in-laws.
Brother Biryani, you'd be surprised at how much Urdu I know. Post it.
Even the Egyptians know Urdu now?? lol j/k..
I blogged two, but this one is my favorite. The last part requires some background knowledge, but the rest is beautiful... No matter how many times I read it, it brings out at least a tear...
MAA
maut ki aagosh mein jab thak key soo jattiii hain maa
tab kahii jaakar sukoon thora sa paa jaati hain maaaa
fikar mein bachoo ki kuch istarah ghul jaati hain maa
no jawan hotey howey bhorii nazar aati hain maaa
eik hi hasraat ko apney azm-o-istaqlal sey
aansoo sey gusl dekar kudh hi dafnaati hain maa
aurhtii hain gurbatoo kaa khud yeh boseeda kafan
chahatoo ka perahan bachey ko pehnaatii hain maa
bhooka rehnay hi nahi deti yateemoo ko kabhi
jaaney kis kis sey kahan sey maang kar laati hain maa
rooh key rishtey ki yeh gheraiyan tou dekhayey
chot lagtii hain hamarey aur chilaatii hain maaa
kab zarorat hoon meray bachey ko itnaa soch kar
jaagti rehtii aaankhen aur soooo jaati hain maaa
haadyoon ka ras pila kar apney dil key chain koo
kitnii raatey mein tou khalii paet sojaati hain maaa
jaaney kitnii barf si raatoo mein aisaa bhi howa
bacha tou chatii pey hain gelay mein sojatii hain maa
jab khiloney ko machaltaa hain koi gurbat ka phool
aaansoo key saaz par bachey ko behlatii hain maaa
fikar mein shamshan key aakhir chatanoo ki tarah
jaisay sookhii lakriaa istraha jaal jaati hain maaa
apnii aanchal sey gulabii aansoo ko poonch kar
deir tak gurbat pey apnii askh barsatii hain maa
samney bachoo key khush rehtii hain har ek haal mein
raat ko chup chup kay lekin askh barsatii hain maaa
pehley bachoo ko khilaatii hain sukoon-o-chain sey
baad mein jo kuch bacha who shauq sey kahti hain maa
Mangtiii bhi nahi apney liyey allah sey
Apney bachoo key liyey daman ko phelatii hain maa
Janey anjaney mein hojayey jo bachey sey kasoor
Eik anjaani saza key dukh sey tarhaaati hain maa
Har ibadat har mohabbat mein nihah hain eik garz
Be garz be losss har khidmat ko kar jaati hain maa
Apney bachoo ki baharey zindagi key wastey
Aansooo key phoool har mosaaam mein barsatii hain maa
Bazooo mein kich key aaajaye gi kaisay qainat
Apney bachey key liyey bahoon ko pehlaatii hain maaa
Eik eik hamley sey bachey ko bachaney key liyey
Dhaaal bantii hain kabhi talwar ban jaati hain maaa
Pheley dil ko saaf karkey khoob apney khoon sey
Dharkanoo par kalmae-tauheed likh jaati hain maaa
Safha-e-hastii pey likhtii hain who usool-e-zindagi
Isi lyey ek maqtab-e-islam kehlatii hain maaa
Usney duniyaa ko diyey masoom rehbar islyey
Azmatoh mein saani-e-quran kehlatii hain maa
Jab perashanii mein ghir jaatey hain hum pardes mein
Aaansoo ko poochney khawaboo mein aajatii hain maa
Aisa lagta hain key jaisa aagaye firdoos mein
Daal kar bahey galey mein sar ko sehlatii hain maa
Agaya gar waqt muskhill apney dil key chain par
Qabr mein hotey howey bhi ashq barsatii hain maa
Baad mar jaaney key phir betay ki khidmat key liyey
Bhes betii ka badal kar ghar mein aaajati hain maaa
Door hojatii hain sari umr ki us dam thakan
Bihah karkey betay kaa jab ghar bahoo lati hain maa
Dekh letay hain nazar jis waqt betay aur bahoo
Ajnabi apney hi ghar mein haayey ban jaati hain maa
Allah allah bhool kar eik eik satam ko raat mein
Pootii pootey sey shikastaaa dil ko behlatii hain maa
Beta kitnaa hi bura hoon par padosan key huzoor
Rok kar jazbaat ko betay key gun gaati hain maa
Shadiyaan karkey jo bachey jaa basey pardes mein
Khat sey ya tasweer sey phir dil ko behlatiii hain maa
Apney seenay par rakhey hain qainat-e-zindaqiii
Yeh zameen is wastey hain dost kehlatii hain maa
Zindagani key safar mein gardishoo ki dhooob mein
Jaab koi saaya nahi miltaa tou yaad aaatii hain maa
Muflisi Bachey ki zid par jab utha letii hain haath
Jaisay mujrum ho koi istrhah sharmatii hain maa
Lot kar wapis safar sey jab bhi ghar aatey hain hum
Daal kar bhahey galey mein sar ko sehlatii hain maa
Dair hojatii hain ghar mein aaney mein aksar jab hamey
Rait par machlii ho jaisay aisay ghabratii hain maa
Mart-e-dam asaka bacha naa ghar par deir sey
Apni donoo kutliyay chokhat par rakh jaati hain maa
Apni pehloo mein lita kar aur totey ki tarah
Eik , bara paanch chodaa hum ko sikhlaati hain maa
Paar kehtey hain kissey aur mamta kia cheez hain
Koi un bachoo sey poochey jin mar jaati hain maa
Saaal bhar mein , ya kabhi , haftey mein jumaraat ko
Zindagi bhar ka silaa eik fatiha paa ti hain maaa
Martaba hoo maa ka zahir kis liyey firdoos sey
Apney bachoo key liyey poshaq mangwatii hain maa
Ghar sey jab pardes jaata hain koi noor-e-nazar
Hath mein quran lekar dar pey aajatii hain maa
Dekey bachey ko zamanat mein reza-e-paak ki
peechay peechay sur jukhayey door tak jaati hain maa
kaaptiii awaaz sey kehtii hain betaa alwidaaa
samnaa jab tak rahey hathooo ko lehratii hain maa
yaad aataa hain shab-e-aashoor ka karyal jawan
jab kabhii uljhiii howi zulfoo ko suljhatii hain maa
sub sey pehlay jaaan dena fatima(a.s) key laal par
raat bhar aun-o-mohamed ko yeh samjhatii hain maa
allah allah intehah dekh sabr-e- laila aur husain (a.s)
baap ney khainchii sina , seeney ko sehlatii hain maa
yeh bata saktii hain humko bus rubab(a.s)-e-khasta tan
kis tarah bin doodh key bachay ko behlaati hain maaa
shimr key kanjar sey yaa sookhey galey sey poochiyey
maa idhar sey nikaltaa hain udhar aaati hain maaa
jab talak hain yeh hath hain hamsheer be parda na hoon
eik madar bawafa betay sey farmatii hain maaa
aisa lagta hain kissi maqtal sey ab bhi waqt-e-asr
ek buridaa sar sey zyada pyasaaa hoon sada aati hain maa
no jawan beta agar dam tor dein aagosh mein
zindaqii bhar sur ko diwaroo sey takraatii hain maa
lash par betay key parhtii hain jawanii marsiaaa
shukr ka sajda us aalim mein baja laati hain maa
dei kar apney laal ko islam ki aaagosh mein
good khalii phir so-e-jaanat palat jaati hain maa
fatima(a.s) key laal par qurbaaan karney key liyey
baandh kar sehra jawan betay ko samjhatii hain maa
apney gam ko bhool kar rotey hain jo shabbir(a.s) ko
unkey askhoo key liyey jaanat sey aajatii hain maaa
an interesting post on being a mother:
http://sanchezsez.blogspot.com/2006/05/bebe-files-eight-weeks.html
and the urdu poem toooo long. Don't feel like reading it... Will try though
Assalamu aleikum,
Sheep: Baa Baa
Hmm, I think it's trying to say the "Baa" word. ; )
Asm, will miss ya loads.
Brother Biryani, okay I didn't actually understand anything except "MAA" :)
Anon, thanks for sharing that, it was really cute.
Olde, it was trying to find a substitute for the "baa" word, but it couldn't ;) Sheikh, I will miss you more. May Allah (swt) make your journey easy and rewarding.
Mars, its not a male prospective. I totally agree everyone needs personal time if the person is a mom or dad but as I added on in my comment do you think personal time is not being there when your kids need to talk to you? is personal time leaving your kids with the grandparents or relatives and go off to some exotic vacation?
I have heard both women and men brag on becoming doctors or similar time consuming professions. They want to go to the ends of the world to help the poor people of the world and forget that their own child needs them too.
This is excellent but don't forget or give up your family for such worldy goals.
It does sound I'm trying to say stay at home & only be a mom, but that's not true. Both parents should work, a wife will go psycho staying at home 24/7!
However a wife is more closer and is influential in a kid's life (refer to a hadith saying this) so I think a wife should know when to say "my child needs me more than my job"
Even dads should also follow this but its a fact of life no matter what a dad will do for his family the mother is more closer to the child.
The take home msg. I'm trying to say
we all have to balance our family and career but the responsibilities one has towards her family, be it kids or parents is far greater than any career.
Hey, is someone travelling? do pray for us all while travelling!
Assalaamu Alaikum :)
Awww, may Allah Swt bless them continuously for all that they have done and still do for us, ameen
summed it up beautifully in just one sentence.
*NOTE: I want to know who all these anonymous people are. You know, it's really not bad when random anonymous people comment in a general manner. But it gets really annoying when the person knows who I am, and I apparently might know who they are and yet they don't want to reveal themselves for some reason. It's cowardly, it really is. And not to mention immodest. SubhanAllah, get a backbone.
Squeeky, Ameen ya Rabb al-'Alameen.
Umar, indeed :)
mars,
how could you say that about my poem?? :'(
And I agree about the anonymous people being cowardly. I'm not too sure how it's immodest, but cowardly for sure.
Brave Brother Biryani
Bismillah.
Interesting. It seems I've stumbled upon your little world of blog Asmaa...
- 'Meowmix'
Biryani, she says that because she doesn't understand it :)
Meowmix, scary, isn't it? :D
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